Brides tell: what my wedding was like without a wedding planner
Some brides aren't planning to use a wedding planner, and as an added expense, you may be on the fence about why you would want to hire one. We spoke to three different brides who were married in the last 18 months, about not using a wedding planner, and their reflections on the planning process and wedding day.
Trying to save money and DIY
Ashley, 36, says that she planned the whole wedding from top to bottom without the aid of any friends or family.
"I didn't look into or use a wedding planner as I thought they'd be too expensive. I was more of the mind that I could DIY the whole thing by spending my own time. Plus, I thought I'd rather save money to put towards a honeymoon/holiday, which was more of a priority."
Because they had recently moved from interstate, and her fiance was away working as a FIFO worker, Ashley was convinced she had the time to do everything herself.
"I handmade everything, from the bridesmaids' facinators, to hand painting the table runners and decorations. Ridiculously, I had it in my head that it was cheaper for me to make everything then pay for what I really wanted. I spent every lunch break and evening for over 10 months researching, planning and making things .I still can't look at a glue gun without being nauseated!"
Looking back, she says that she would estimate she got no more than 5 or 6 hours sleep a night for the whole 10 month planning period. And the pressure finally got to her - on the day of the wedding, it all came to a head.
"I was so stressed leading up to the wedding that once I had a few wines at the reception, I was in full 'blow off steam' mode. I ended up having a few too many wines, and spent the whole time on the dancefloor, and didn't speak to ANY guests after the main meal was served."
"It was very much a point of embarrassment post wedding," she recalls, cringing. "Quite a few people made comments 'how much fun I had' on the night."
I didn't feel like I got to relax or feel special
Having regrets about doing all the planning yourself can be for reasons other than just having worked too hard. Many brides miss out on the ability to just relax and enjoy the events in the leadup. Danielle, 44, ended up planning her hens' night herself, rather than enjoying being pampered. She had hoped her bridesmaids would have organised this for her, but ended up having to do it herself, and didn't get to feel the special feeling of being the main focus of the night. So did this experience make her more open minded about hiring an event planner for future events, or would she recommend to a friend that they hire one?
"Definitely! I had just assumed it would be expensive which is why I thought I would do it myself. I actually regret having to arrange everything myself, though."
All the little details
Katherine, 34, wishes that she had allocated more time to mingle with her guests and finish getting photos with each of them. The timeline she came up with was not quite right, and left her wishing it had been looked over by someone who knew what they were doing. While she loved her wedding day and had an amazing time, there were a few details that were missed, as there was noone with experience making sure all the details had been checked.
"We also forgot to toast when we were cutting the wedding cake," she remembers. This is something she still feels disappointed by, months later.
Your wedding day is a day you will never forget, and it will probably be one of the best days of your life. Having a wedding planner just means you can enjoy it that little bit more - by letting yourself feel present in the moment, relaxed, and special. We'll make sure everything happens exactly as it's supposed to, with no surprises or forgotten moments that you'll be regretting later.
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